Etiquette has evolved. Here’s how to handle situations traditional rules didn’t cover:

Same-Sex Couples: You have options. You can use the First, Last, First format with the shared last name in the center, or you can use two separate single-letter monograms side by side. The choice is personal preference.

Hyphenated Last Names: Use the first initial of the hyphenated name for the center letter.
Example: Alex Brown-Smith = ABs

Keeping a Maiden Name: If a woman keeps her maiden name, the couple does not have a shared joint monogram. Use individual monograms or intertwine two single-letter last name initials.

Children: Use First, Last, Middle for kids. Keep the styling simple. Avoid overly ornate, adult-looking fonts for children’s items.